Dear Adam

This post meant for my future kiddo. (IF..one day i will have one...or two...or a whole set of the Brady's)
I may not be the greatest mother and I fear that I do not have such quality. Not that I don't love kiddos, but I do love you a lot make me think that having you now would be unfair to you. Put that reason aside for now. It may be hard for you to understand but once you do, hope you will forgive me.

But let say one day that I will have you, there are lots of things that I want to share with you. I do not know lots of things but I do understand some of them. So here are the things I wish to share with you about the world that I am living now. May this guide you well when you are here one fine day. When the day comes, please remember to look through these and make a wise decision.

 

Here goes

1) Blood is thicker than water
Family is the foremost important entity in your life. No matter how bad your brother will be, no matter how an asshole your mother/father will be, family is a family. It runs in your blood, in your flesh and separating them means destroying yourself. I am thankful to be born in this family where everyone supporting each other and loving each other. Treat your family well and whenever you are lost, always remember that you do have someplace to go back to.

2) Allah is the Almighty
Keep your faith in Islam firmly. Remember that death is real. Hereafter is real. Follows all His orders and never doubt His powers. If you abide to all His rules and orders, no doubt, His promises are real. Your life and your heart will be in peace. But when He wants to test you, accept it and be patience, because sooner or later, you will be rewarded. Don't only turn to Him when you are sad, but every mood or emotions you have at that time because He is the most Graceful and most Benevolence .

3)Trust is a 5 letter word
It is hard to believe someone or something nowadays. Rumours spread wildly and it makes you believe them. Piece of advice, don't trust them all. It was like 3blind men with a big elephant. One touched its tail and said that the elephant is like a piece of string. The other man hold its leg and said that the elephant was like a tree trunk and the last man hold its ear and said the elephant was a thin as paper. None of them were right. So before you trust anyone and anything, gather the whole information that you need and analyze them before you make your decision.

4) Less talk, listen often, see all the times
Speech and talk and conversations sometimes can be misleading. Think hard before making any statement. Listen to people talk but filter the things they have said. Not all of them are useful. People whine most of the time. People ramble all way till midnight. But like House MD said, "people lies". Not to say everyone, but yeah some people do. But see and observe all the times. In everything you do, see. On the way to work, observe those children walk to school, the old lady crossing the road, the flying bird, the shining sun. See and you will understand. People may tell lies but most of the time, their faces don't.

5) Fear of no fear
Fear nothing, other than fear of not having a fear. Its ok to feel afraid of height, to be afraid of loosing someone or scared of the ghost. Fear that you will be fired or fear of uncertainty. To have fear is a good thing. It helps you to be more careful in making decision. It makes you plan well in every thing that you do. Knowing your fear and overcome it wisely.

These are all I have so far.
Its an opinion, of what I have experienced for the past 28years of my life.
You should read a better advice than this in surah Al-luqman.

If you will ask me, how is the world now? Is it bad?
World is huge, hectic and scary.
But the most important question you should ask is
How should I live in this world.

So
Dear Adam

Live well


Sincerely

.....mama......