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Bengang....Teramat
Hear me out and then judge.
An old man presented with irregular growth and ulcer at his penile area that looks malignant. Has been seen in polyclinic and been given appointment to see specialist soon after that.
BUT....
No.... he didn't turned up. OK fine. Maybe he has this transportation issue or due to bad weather he couldn't get into his boat and come for the appointment. Totally understand that because it the most commonest reason given by patients who defaulted follow ups.
But not for him. The caretaker forgot about it. Didn't know that he had such appointment in the first place? Unacceptable.
FINE. so people do forget.
I told him and family members that he needs further treatment in tertiary hospital. There is possibility of surgery and scans and probably a long hospital stay. So he reacted.
" Oh..Nadai belanja.." (Not enough money)
OK...Fine. Not a big a deal. We can refer you to social worker. But I noticed that he has numbers of children around him. Not to say that they are wealthy but at least look fine financially. Maybe I misjudge but wearing a very decent close, few expensive jewelry, don't tell me you only work at paddy field and have all those.
"Ni anak ramai ni, takkan tak boleh support"
And the answer from one of the daughter really annoys me, translated as
"Oh, I don't live with him anymore. I am not the one that taking care of him. I have my own family. "
In other words, since they are not living together, any problem financially is not her problem. It is a responsibility of the person who is taking care of him now.
What the...F word.
So, why bother to visit him then?
Sadly to say, it is a very common problem here in Kapit. I don't mind if you say that you don't have any money because we surely help you in every way we can. But it really really annoys me when you have 10 children and non of them can help to support you when you are sick. I did not ask for much. Just a boat ride to Sibu cost RM20 and probably few hundreds or less for hospital stay or operation. From someone who have gold bangles on each hand?
I remember when I have to quarrel with a patient who requested for a welfare for his grandmother. The grandma has DM and HPT on at least 3monthly follow up, stays alone in a longhouse. So asking for welfare for old citizen who stays alone. I don't mind to fill up the form seriously. But, what make me stop doing that was when I learned that that old lady has 4 children and 2 of them are working off-shores with some private company. BUT, since they are NOT staying together, the children never send her any pocket money. Reason is because they are not staying together anymore. In other word now that they are not dependent to their parents, they somehow cut connections with them. Is it too hard to just withdraw at least RM100 for your parents? Maybe not every month. But at least 3monthly? Once a year?
From all the weird Ibanese custom that I have learned, this is the most ridiculous, absurd and annoying.
Really frustrating.
And still we have lots of teenage pregnancies. Wish I can tell them to their face. "Not worth it to carry this child for 9months when one day he/she will ditch you alone when you older"
Please people, love your parents.
I mean custom is just a guideline anyway. It is rule made by human. Is it far more greater than rules made by the Almighty?
Lu pikirla sendiri.
Bengang.
Hear me out and then judge.
An old man presented with irregular growth and ulcer at his penile area that looks malignant. Has been seen in polyclinic and been given appointment to see specialist soon after that.
BUT....
No.... he didn't turned up. OK fine. Maybe he has this transportation issue or due to bad weather he couldn't get into his boat and come for the appointment. Totally understand that because it the most commonest reason given by patients who defaulted follow ups.
But not for him. The caretaker forgot about it. Didn't know that he had such appointment in the first place? Unacceptable.
FINE. so people do forget.
I told him and family members that he needs further treatment in tertiary hospital. There is possibility of surgery and scans and probably a long hospital stay. So he reacted.
" Oh..Nadai belanja.." (Not enough money)
OK...Fine. Not a big a deal. We can refer you to social worker. But I noticed that he has numbers of children around him. Not to say that they are wealthy but at least look fine financially. Maybe I misjudge but wearing a very decent close, few expensive jewelry, don't tell me you only work at paddy field and have all those.
"Ni anak ramai ni, takkan tak boleh support"
And the answer from one of the daughter really annoys me, translated as
"Oh, I don't live with him anymore. I am not the one that taking care of him. I have my own family. "
In other words, since they are not living together, any problem financially is not her problem. It is a responsibility of the person who is taking care of him now.
What the...F word.
So, why bother to visit him then?
Sadly to say, it is a very common problem here in Kapit. I don't mind if you say that you don't have any money because we surely help you in every way we can. But it really really annoys me when you have 10 children and non of them can help to support you when you are sick. I did not ask for much. Just a boat ride to Sibu cost RM20 and probably few hundreds or less for hospital stay or operation. From someone who have gold bangles on each hand?
I remember when I have to quarrel with a patient who requested for a welfare for his grandmother. The grandma has DM and HPT on at least 3monthly follow up, stays alone in a longhouse. So asking for welfare for old citizen who stays alone. I don't mind to fill up the form seriously. But, what make me stop doing that was when I learned that that old lady has 4 children and 2 of them are working off-shores with some private company. BUT, since they are NOT staying together, the children never send her any pocket money. Reason is because they are not staying together anymore. In other word now that they are not dependent to their parents, they somehow cut connections with them. Is it too hard to just withdraw at least RM100 for your parents? Maybe not every month. But at least 3monthly? Once a year?
From all the weird Ibanese custom that I have learned, this is the most ridiculous, absurd and annoying.
Really frustrating.
And still we have lots of teenage pregnancies. Wish I can tell them to their face. "Not worth it to carry this child for 9months when one day he/she will ditch you alone when you older"
Please people, love your parents.
I mean custom is just a guideline anyway. It is rule made by human. Is it far more greater than rules made by the Almighty?
Lu pikirla sendiri.
Bengang.
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